Why TikTok Feminists Will Be Left Behind While Smart Women Move On

 

The reality is harsh, but true: these young women boycotting men because of their political choices are simply too immature to understand that withholding love isn't a weapon—it's a self-imposed exile, ensuring they will end up alone while mature women move on with all the good men.

There’s an old saying that when you throw a stone into a pack of dogs, the one that yelps is the one hit. That pretty much sums up what we’re seeing from some angry young women reacting to Trump’s latest victory. They’ve taken to TikTok and other social media outlets, screaming for an emulation of South Korea’s feminist 4B movement—a movement that rejects sex, marriage, dating, and childbirth, all in the name of retribution against men who dared to vote for Donald Trump. If it sounds extreme, that’s because it is. And more to the point, it also reveals a shocking level of immaturity and a complete misunderstanding of what democracy is supposed to be about.

The idea that young women are calling for a ban on heterosexual dating, presumably to punish men for how they cast their votes, should give us all pause. Let’s remember, democracy is built on the foundation of differing opinions—people vote for who they believe will serve their interests best, and everyone has the right to express their choice. If men voted for Trump, they were within their rights to do so. Screaming and calling for extreme measures like the 4B movement is nothing short of emotional blackmail. It's akin to a toddler kicking and crying because they didn't get the toy they wanted. The big difference here is that these young women are not toddlers; they are adults who should know better.

One video that has garnered over 1.3 million likes begins with, "The good news is that men hate us, so there’s no point in catering to them." Another adds, “No more kitty cat for men,” implying that heterosexual relationships should be withheld as a form of punishment. Are we to take seriously a political movement built on what amounts to withholding sex as a bargaining chip? Even Freud would roll his eyes.

Social media has always amplified outrage, but what we’re seeing now with these TikTok videos is a culture where backlash becomes a kind of sport—where taking an extreme stand is more about getting likes and going viral than it is about actually making a difference. Remember the Women’s March of 2017, when millions gathered to protest Trump’s presidency, advocating for actual policy changes and promoting women’s rights? There was organization, a clear message, and real political action. Fast forward to today, and we have TikTok’s equivalent of “No more kitty cat”—the decline in substance is palpable.

The rise of the 4B movement in South Korea has specific cultural roots. It's rooted in decades of systemic gender inequality and a lack of justice for victims of violence. It’s a response to deeply entrenched societal issues, and whether or not one agrees with the approach, at least there is a cultural context to justify its existence. But here, in the United States, a similar movement born out of election results comes across as shallow and reactionary. What these angry young women fail to understand is that actions have consequences. By shutting themselves off from relationships in retaliation, they are only punishing themselves. And by the time they realize that “No more kitty cat” means fewer opportunities for fulfilling relationships, they might discover that men have moved on to partners who are more mature, realistic, and frankly, interested in meaningful connections.

Let’s face it—the entitlement mentality needs to go. The idea that the world owes you something because you didn’t get the election result you wanted is laughable. Life does not owe you a boyfriend, a fairytale ending, or anything else for that matter. If young men voted for Trump, they had reasons. Maybe they felt economically disenfranchised, maybe they bought into Trump's America-first rhetoric, or maybe they were just tired of what they see as cancel culture run amok. In any case, those are valid choices in a democratic system. Throwing a tantrum on TikTok about it doesn’t make you a revolutionary—it makes you someone who can't handle the fact that sometimes things don’t go your way.

Remember Aesop’s fable about the grapes that were out of reach? The fox couldn’t get them, so he declared that they were probably sour anyway. That’s exactly what we’re seeing here. Some young women couldn’t get the election outcome they wanted, so instead of accepting reality, they are declaring that men are not worth their time anyway. It’s a coping mechanism, a weak one, at that. And it distracts from the real work that needs to be done—educating oneself on the issues, becoming involved in political action, and making sure that the next time around, your voice is heard not through a TikTok soundbite, but at the ballot box.

We have to ask ourselves, where is all of this headed? If young women in America start boycotting men because of how they voted, are we headed toward a future where political ideology dictates who we can or cannot date? In a country where we pride ourselves on freedom, how free are we if we’re limiting our romantic lives based on voting records? Abraham Lincoln once said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” He was referring to the divide over slavery, an issue far graver than any we face today. And yet, here we are, willingly dividing our personal lives over election results. If anything, this behavior represents a failure to understand the importance of compromise and coexistence in a pluralistic society.

Perhaps it's time for these angry young women to take a page from Eleanor Roosevelt's book. She said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." The women taking to TikTok seem to feel that the men who voted for Trump are making them inferior, and they’re reacting with anger and hostility. But the truth is, no man’s vote can diminish your worth—unless you let it. Instead of isolating themselves or encouraging each other to reject men altogether, perhaps they should focus on building themselves up, understanding opposing viewpoints, and engaging in constructive dialogue.

By all means, be angry if things don’t go your way—anger can be a catalyst for change. But use that anger wisely. Take it to the voting booth, the town hall, or the community meeting. Don't waste it on TikTok videos that contribute nothing to the real political discourse. The fight for equality, justice, and representation is too important to be reduced to a petulant social media trend. And the next time these young women find themselves wanting to lash out at men who voted differently, they should remember the saying: “When you point one finger, there are three more pointing back at you.”

It might not be too late to grow up—but for many of these young women, by the time they realize what they’ve lost, the men will be long gone, happily in the arms of women who were willing to engage with the world as it is, not as they wish it to be. Life has a funny way of moving on, and if these TikTok feminists aren’t careful, it’s going to move on without them. Maturity isn't about winning every battle—it's about understanding which battles are worth fighting and how to fight them in a way that brings real, lasting change. And this, sadly, ain't it.